From Constriction to Expansion


As we are approaching the end of January, I find myself asking these questions. “What if New Year’s resolutions are an outmoded tradition?” “What if we could look in a far more helpful direction for change and well-being?”

How many of you have made New Year’s Resolutions? How many of you are using will-power, strategies and goals to accomplish the results you are hoping to achieve? Are some of you repeating the same intentions year after year to no avail?

I would like to suggest that there’s a much more fun, lighthearted and expansive way to experience transformation on our lives.

Has anyone here ever heard of the 3 Principles? Well the 3 Principles, unlike the 4 Agreements, or the 7 Habits of Highly Successful People, is a Description, not a Prescription of how our experience of life is created.

The 3 Principles points to the understanding that “We are not Human Beings in search of a Spiritual Experience.” We are in fact “Spiritual Beings having a Human Experience.”

The problem is with us Humans, is that sometimes we forget this fact. And when we forget, we become constricted. We start to believe that we are ‘Doing Life’ all alone. That it’s up to us to make things happen. We plan and strategized, believing that if we just changed or morphed into a better version of our-selves we would be happier, more confident, and more successful. We believe that the path to happiness and contentment is through self-improvement, hard work and striving for external accomplishments. We mistakenly believe that achieving a better body, a new partner, a job promotion, a nicer car, or more money in our bank account is going to bring us the satisfaction we are looking for.

I might add that there’s nothing wrong with achieving any of these things so long as we are aware that the things themselves are not the source of our happiness. It is how we think about these things that determines our level of satisfaction, not the things themselves.

In our culture, most of us have been brought up to believe that it is our circumstances or the people in our lives are what cause us to feel a certain way. When we are in a low mood, we blame our partners, our bosses, our weight, or our bank accounts, or a myriad of other for reasons for our upset or dissatisfaction. Conversely, when we are in a great mood, we attribute our positive feelings to our partners, our new job, our weight-loss, or our burgeoning bank balance.

What we don’t realize is that our feelings are not coming from the outside world, but instead come directly from our thinking in the moment about our circumstances or the people in our lives.

This is called the Inside-Out Understanding. When we believe that are feelings are coming from the Outside-In we often end up feeling frustrated and helpless when things don’t go the way we planned. Have you ever tried to change another person in hopes that it will make you happier? The results more often than not, are futile and frustrating at best. Or have you ever been over the moon with a brand-new car only to find that after a few months the novelty has worn off and it doesn’t quite give you the same thrill as it once did? Has the car changed or has your thinking about the car changed?

As Humans, we have innocently forgotten that we are “Spiritual being having a human experience”. Humans have very busy minds. In fact, the statistic show that we experience anywhere from sixty to one hundred thousand thoughts a day. These thoughts are random. They are up for grabs for anyone. Often, we have repetitive thoughts that when we hear them often enough, we believe that they must mean something about us. We take them personally. Believing them to be true. Thoughts such as….. I’m not good enough, I’m not successful enough, I’m too fat, I don’t have enough money, I’m not confident enough etc. etc. When we label ourselves in this way, we start to feel small, limited and constricted.

What if the only thing we needed to do to achieve higher levels of happiness and satisfaction in our lives is to remember who we are at our essence? Spiritual Beings having a Human Experience.

What if I was to tell you that there is nothing wrong with any of us? And that there is no need for us to jump on the Self- improvement wagon. That who we are at our essence, is perfectly whole and healthy just as we are. That at our essence we are pure love, pure peace and pure joy. Our natural state is perfect health and wellbeing. Can you feel your consciousness starting to expand?

Spiritually we are all created equal. We all come from the same formless energy that created all living things. As Spiritual Beings, we are perfect and whole just as we are. Nothing broken, nothing lacking. We have everything we need inside of ourselves.

The only thing that can disturb our peace of mind is when we listen to, or take seriously, our insecure thinking. When we live from our insecure thinking, we are unwittingly creating stress and anxiety in our lives. When we listen to our busy minds, full of fear and insecure thoughts, it is hard for us to hear the wisdom that resides in all of us. We are innocently living from this place of fear and constriction.

The idea is not to judge ourselves when we get lost in our insecure thinking, that’s just what we humans do. Simply remember that at our essence, we are innately resilient, and in time we will return to our natural state of wellbeing.

When we understand that we live in the feeling of our thinking in the moment, a whole new world opens up to us. We relax and become less constricted. We feel the energy of the Intelligence Behind Life moving through us, guiding us and providing us with unlimited inspiration and creativity. When we live from this expansive place, our minds quiet down and our hearts open up. We reside in the feeling of infinite potential. As our consciousness rises, we naturally experience more love, more peace, and more contentment.

Wishing you all a wonderful 2020…… full of peace, love and happiness!

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